Three Concepts You (Probably) Didn't Know Were Trauma Responses
The odd fact about trauma is, it takes on many forms and fashions. Disasters, childhood experiences, and relationship difficulties can manifest itself in many different outlets. There is no right way to experience or heal from trauma, but today we are sharing a few things you could be doing out of post-traumatic habit.
Over apologizing
We are in a “sorry not sorry” day and age. Over apologizing in relation to the smallest details, is a variation of trying to enclose, environmentally shrivel up, and almost go unnoticed. Not every inconvenience has to be reciprocated with remorse. Some dilemmas are out of our control and that is ok. Learn to stop apologizing if you feel like this is an over-used habit. Get to source of your need to be in good rapport with absolutely everyone all the time.
Constantly seeking validation from others
We get it- it feels nice to receive a compliment on a selfie. Studies have shown the brain chemical oxytocin is released when someone makes us feel good. As social creatures, it is a pleasurable experience when we are gifted with validation from those around us. A constant need for validation, in person or on social media can be traced back to the lack of attention during the impressionable years or childhood.
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Constant fear of being reprimanded by a spouse or authoritative figure
In addition (but not always linked) to over apologizing, the fear of being corrected is often found in the perfectionist personality types. We plan and organize so much, there should be no error in our well-thought out intentions. If something is even the slightest bit askew, waves of guilt and shame wash over us to the point where we could believe we are in some sort of trouble or even danger.
Trauma is undoubtably real and the healing process is not a definite period of time. It is a gradual form of self-learning. If you find constant negative emotions forming around your mistakes or unplanned situations out of your control, take the time to focus on how you find yourself responding. Slow down and take breaks as often as you need to concerning experienced trauma and mental health.
